CantBeMeEither ( new member #83223) posted at 1:47 AM on Sunday, July 13th, 2025
There are many BSes here that have reached your stage in the process who have gone so far as to invest in a voice activated recorder to protect themselves from delusional allegations. I am not saying your wife would do it out of maliciousness, but the human mind goes to great lengths to keep being the hero in their own story.
WontBeFooledAgai ( member #72671) posted at 5:44 PM on Sunday, July 13th, 2025
I have more thoughts OP, but I must admit the fact that you had a "work wife" troubles me. It may even make you a mad-hatter.
I don't get calling anyone else your wife, even w the adjective "work" put in front of it.
WontBeFooledAgai ( member #72671) posted at 6:49 PM on Sunday, July 13th, 2025
ETA: I may have been off in my last post, in that this woman you work with, is not actually your "work wife". (I am sorry but the phrase "work wife" seriously gets up my cackles up. Especially since so many affairs start at work. It's NOT a cute or an innocent phrase at all.)
I think a lot more happened between your WW and POS other man. I do hope you keep moving towards Divorce as you have been doing.
AllThatJazz (original poster new member #86320) posted at 7:31 PM on Sunday, July 13th, 2025
My wife started calling her my work wife around the same time she started calling AP her work husband (and their affair started). I’ve been reading the Not Just Friends and other similar books, and regarding me and the woman I work with, no lines have been crossed or, really, even approached within a mile.
Just because you can doesn't mean you should.
trustedg ( member #44465) posted at 8:43 PM on Sunday, July 13th, 2025
It sounds like your wife is not ready for reconciliation. I believe real reconciliation requires truth.
If she is truly interested have her re read "How to Help Your Spouse ..."
She created this mess, she needs to step up and take responsibility for her actions.
Me BWHim WH DDay 12/2012Married a long time, in R
