I'm a 27 years old single guy and I've never dated in my life. I've tried twice but both times women were already in a relationship.
I want to say that infidelity is rare in this world but in my own family relatives there are 4 cases of cheating and infidelities so I don't think its rare. I live in India and I've rarely seen a marriage where I can say they're so much in love with each other.
I've reading many posts in reddit regarding Infidelity as to find a reason to why this happens and came here when someone posted a link to Mrs Walloped's last post.
My Question is do I have to be vigilant all the time in my future relationships or marriage?
Why do I ask this? because I've read cases where even after 5,10,20,30 years of marriage people have still betrayed their spouses even when they were in a loving marriage and they also had kids.
WS were so good at compartmentalizing that one WS used to be the perfect spouse and perfect parent that there was no sign of them having an A. One BH said that his WW never texted the AP (coworker), they used to have PA in their car at lunch time and after returning home she was the perfect wife and Mother to their kids. One other case I read was that the WW had a 4 year PA and they had three female children and the BH got to know about it when WW left home after her AP died of heart attack.
In my own country in arrange marriages I've seen a number of cases where woman were already in a relationship before marriage and still continued it after marriage till she got caught even after the BH asking her a number of times if she was in a relationship
so that he'll make an excuse to not to go through with the marriage.
I thought that in Love marriage I wouldn't have to deal with these cases and can give my all to her and she will give her all to me but after reading all these cases it seems that I've to vigilant all the time.
My other question is what boundaries should me and my future Woman should agree upon so as to avoid these situations
ranging from both EA and PA (I hope that lot of BS and WS will provide some points to me regarding this ) and what boundaries should be there while interacting with coworkers as I've read a lot of infidelities takes place in office environments.
If I have learned anything from these cases is that no matter what you do for your spouse and your family, it can all fall apart at any stage of your life and you can't to anything about it and that's scary.
I would also appreciate any book/books to recommend to know the psychology behind what goes in WS mind
Thank you in Advance for all the BS and WS for taking your time and making some points for me and all those people who have similar doubts like me
